August 6, 2020
Two Steps Forward...
By Barry Rudesill
Hey all! I know it’s been awhile, and I do apologize for that. Maria and I both work with a Summer Camp; and, well, Summer is here! Add to that the filming schedule for Trek 2.0 and the fact that Maria and I have both been under-the-weather, it’s been tough to find the time to work on our blog posts. (Hoping that it will be easier when Trek 2.0 is done!)
Anyhow, I just wanted to talk about...life…
As I sit to write this, I’m fighting a sinus infection that has led to me coughing. (I really want a t-shirt that says, “It’s a cough, not COVID-19!”) I’m running a mild fever and it’s hard for me to focus on anything right now. (ADHD + sick = MASSIVE SQUIRREL MOMENT!) In fact, this blog post has taken me about 15 minutes to type so far, and I’m only a couple of paragraphs in!
This year has been a series of highs and lows for me, and I’m sure that some of you – if not all of you – can agree with me that this is NOT the year I had planned! (Since when do I get to decide what the year is SUPPOSED to look like?)
My children graduated from high school this year. (Yay!) But they didn’t get a graduation party and couldn’t even walk to receive their diplomas. (Sigh!) Summer Camp is running. (Yay!) But we have a lot of new rules, cleaning protocols, and limited numbers that can attend. (Sigh!) We’ve completed “The Bridge” series with all-new workbooks. (Yay!) But we’ve experienced some audio issues – and health issues – which have prevented us from being where we want to be with Trek 2.0. (Sigh!)
And that seems to be the way the year is going: two steps forward...and sometimes two steps back. But here’s where I get a Choice:
I can either try to Control the world around me (which I can’t); I can hold onto my Perceptions of how I think the world SHOULD work (which doesn’t take into account what’s going on around me); and I can let my behaviors be Reactive rather than Proactive (which means I keep bumping into things around me). That’s Option #1.
Option #2 is that I can realize that this world is always changing, that sometimes things don’t work out the way I want them to, but that I can still be okay in the chaos. Today may not shape up the way that I want it to and I can’t control that; but I can control how I will face the day and what my attitude will be.
If I cling to the way I think the world SHOULD work, if I let my Perceptions and Expectations decide my emotions, if I react instead of adapt, then this year is going to continue to be hard. And, unfortunately, I’m making it hard on myself… My Choice.
If I look at the world around me as a challenge instead of an obstacle, if I promise myself to be the best “me” I can become today, and if I focus more on what’s going right than on what I perceive is going wrong, I’ll get through this...we’ll get through this together! My Choice.
So, today, which path are you going to choose?
Here’s hoping this makes sense! And here’s hoping that you know that we love you and we’re glad you’re on this journey called “life” with us.
We hope you enjoy your journey!
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